Decisions! Decisions!

Question: What are your plans after your maternity?
This q caught me by surprise. Err.. Status quo? Boys go to babysitter's house and I pick them up at 7pm?
Hb's suggestion: Continue sending them to babysitter, we get a maid so that night time there's help. Triple amount to spend. Babysitter for the boys n maid excluding levy, additional utilities, food n lodging. Doesn't make sense.
He further suggest I quit my job but that would mean I lose my financial freedom and Zach would need to stop his current school arrangement (which I bore the fees all on my own)! I can't do that to my boy.. The thought of having to get $$ from him is daunting.. How much can he give? How much I need to maintain my sanity at home? $2K? $3K? Does that mean I hv to cook? Ugh..

Kieran Tan

Born 13 June 2011 weighing 3.285kg at 50cm in length. Not bad for a 37 week baby!!
I was scheduled for c-sect on 21 June 2011 at week of 38! As how my past pregnancy is this time round, I thank God pre-eclampsia nvr found it's way nor water retention or high blood pressure. However, I was suffering from stomach hardening most of the time that walking seems so difficult.
I took urgent leave on 25/05 to see my gynae about it only to find out:
1. I'm having contractions not Braxton
2. My cervix is softening.
Gynae ordered bed rest for the rest of the week afraid that baby may decide to make an appearance.
3 days of bed rest became 3 weeks of bed rest.. I was soooo bored at home, not mobile enough to go out all the time (that'll defeat the purpose of bed rest, right?).
Nxt bad news I received fr gynae 2 weeks later is my amniotic fluid is low! And baby do not have much space to move so no point keeping baby in my tummy anymore!! Date was brought forward by a week - 14/06!
Well.. Mom being mom couldn't resist checking with a geomancer on good dates. Apparently the only good date is 13/06 or 17/06!! As my water level is dangerously low, we doubt gynae will allow c-sect on Friday.. So scrambling to call her on 11/06 morning informing her I wanna deliver on 13/06 then rush down to pay $3K in cash for delivery was no joke.. Muahaha
So that's it.. Delivery via c-sect with epidural on 13/06 between 7am - 9am!
Naturally I had a feast the day before, indulging in laksa n durian pengat.

I knew this day would come.. Zach had severe attack of wheezing last night and this morning I realized he's breathless when he talks and he's trying to catch his breath.
Sensing something is wrong, asked hb to come back n drive us to PD. Trust mother's instinct my worries came true. Dr Ee said this is quite an escalation of his usual bout of wheezing and it can be considered mild asthma attack cos of the breathlessness. Sigh.. My heart just sank!!
Recommended to nebulize him for 5 days and then he needs to be on inhaler for 2 months!!! This is prevention course. I certainly hope he's not going to be on inhaler forever.


Now as I calm down, I began to think what I did wrong.. I stopped all cold drinks, no ribena, no vitagen, no yoghurt nor cheese unless if course he took all those at nanny's place. Sigh.. What can I do abt it? There's alot of things which I don't feel happy abt like how can my son don't nap when on weekends he'll nap from 2pm - 5pm at least. Or how can she let him nap till 6pm knowing that 10.30pm he's supposed to be on bed so that he can get up well rested for school but that never happen cos he'll sleep at 12am at least.
Like this instance... Took medication at 9.30am will make him drowsy by 2pm. I picked him up at 5.30pm n I was told he din nap!!! Wow.. N now it's dinner time, my boy is snoring away.. Zzz
Drastic measure needs to be taken!!